Title: Facing Relationship Challenges
Tags: Dashuri, Love, Date, Zemer, Bukuri
Blog Entry: Working at a relationship is often easier said than done. We all have many reasons and grievances which make us stop short of fulfilling the obligations we make in a relationship. Why do we sometimes fail to do what we set out to achieve in our relationship and end up hurting ourselves and our partner in the process. A few human attributes spring to mind as the cause of this: anger, selfishness, greed, to name but a few. Making a relationship work is all about facing up to the relationship challenges. The number one challenge is about putting the other person first. We naturally wish to defend and protect ourselves first, but in doing so we can cause problems. By first putting yourself in your partner’s shoes (methaphorically speaking), you should be able to see the situation from their perspective. Often that is all that is required to calm your own feelings of resentment or anger and hence approach the problem more unemotionally. It is not easy to tackle relationship problems if your motivation for being in a relationship is materialistic, i.e. for money, security, physical satisfaction, etc. First try to develop true feelings and understand your partner. Place your partner’s happiness at least as equal to your own. Only then are you in a position to maturely handle conflict as it arises. Remember to make them happy, and put in as much effort as you do to make yourself happy. If you find you are treating yourself so much more better than you are treating your partner, then you need to look a little at yourself and be honest about your reasons for being in that relationship. Is it really about love, or about comfort? To achieve relationship harmony, you need to make sure both you and your partner are happy. Remember, to follow the path to happiness, it is often easiest to send your partner ahead first.
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